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the final pathway in this journey of step-family preparation. This topic
focuses on recognizing the differences between step and nuclear
families. They are completely different types of families. Just because
you’ve been in a family before does NOT mean that you have a clue about
how step-families function. Here’s a perfect example. What is the first
word you think of when I say “mother”? If you’re like most people, happy
memories of times with your mother or special things she did for you
came to mind. If so, you probably were thinking of words similar to
“kind, loving, gentle, and fun”. Now what comes to mind when I say
“step-mother”? For many of you, the first word you thought of was
probably “wicked” or something along those lines. Well, you’ve got
Cinderella to thank for that one.It doesn’t matter how kind, loving,
gentle or fun a step-parent is, they do not have the same bond with the
children as a biological parent does. For many people, they can
intellectually grasp this, but actually experiencing it frequently
causes rejection and anger. Remember in part 5 when I said how important
it is for you to get your sense of worth from your faith relationship
instead of the people around you? Here’s a perfect example why. Does
this mean that step-parents and step-kids never have a close
relationship? Absolutely not! It’s just that the bond is different, and
unfortunately society still seems to see it as “less than”. That doesn't
mean it is though. This is
just one example of the differences between these two types of families.
There are numerous others. Ignorance of these differences causes couples
to have unrealistic expectations of what their family life will be like.
When reality hits, many couples and families become disillusioned and
consider leaving the discomfort as quickly as possible through yet
another divorce. Visit http://www.Remarriagesuccess.com for more
information on how to prepare as a couple and a family for remarriage.
Register today for a free 5 day e-course focusing specifically on what
the differences between these two types of families are at
http://www.Remarriagesuccess.com/e-course.htm Alyssa Johnson, MSW, LCSW
is the founder and CEO of Remarriage Success. She may be reached through
her website at http://www.Remarriagesuccess.com where she encourages
your feedback and suggestions.
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