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It is such a big
no-no to talk about your exes and past relationships. You are on a date
because you do not want to dwell on the past and you are ready to start
fresh and begin a relationship with someone new. As much as possible,
focus your topics on you and your date's interests, views, etc. People
don't like the thought of being a transition date or a rebound for that
matter so avoid talking about your old boyfriend or girlfriend. Besides,
if you were to rave about it all night, it would seem as if you haven't
gotten over your past relationship. Avoid topics concerning politics.
You will have plenty of time if you were to go on other dates to discuss
your views and opinions on the current political situation of your
country or on who your favorite president is. Don't get yourself into
such a heated discussion of politics especially if your date is not so
fond of it or hates to talk about such a topic. Skip a discussion on
religion. If you share the same faith and you are both that devoted and
active at church, then it is probably okay. However, some people are not
that interested about religion so talking about which religion is better
won't wow your date over. A positive attitude and a positive image of
you will definitely score you points. No matter how much you hate your
job, avoid discussing it over your first date. While the topic of work
will always come up somewhere during the conversation, you can focus
more on the positive aspect of it or you can be honest about how you
don't like it without going much into the details as to why. While
everyone wants to make a good impression, bragging about your
accomplishments can turn off a date. This will make you appear self
centered and arrogant. You can always talk about some less serious
achievements but tone down the bragging. Talking too much about your
achievements is like telling your date that you are too good for him or
her. Creating a bit of mystery about yourself will definitely make your
date curious about you wanting for a second one. Also at times playing
hard to get usually works. Don't overdo it though. If you find your date
talking about a topic you find uncomfortable to talk about don't be
afraid to tell him or her honestly about how you feel that things should
be taken slow. As long as you try to your best to avoid the topics that
can have your date fleeing, you will definitely be asked for second and
even other succeeding dates.
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